We have an air mattress that’s used for house guests when there isn’t an extra bed available. It blows up easily with the push of a button to a full-size thick mattress. Our guests feel comfy as they fall asleep on this firm bed, only to wake in the morning (if they make it that long) to feel their bottoms almost reaching the ground. I call this our “de-flatable” mattress. It has an almost undetectable leak. Little by little air flows out of the bed leaving the inhabitants achy and sleep deprived. (We only use this for people under the age of 16 or guest we don’t want to stay very long.)
Often people think they are taking all the right steps toward reaching their goals; things may look good at the start – and just like the air mattress – there is a leak and they can’t figure out where. So what do you do, when you think you’re doing every thing right? Start looking for places to fix the leaks:
1. Crystal Clarity in Your Vision Are you really clear on where you want to go? Do you know what you really want to achieve?
2. Are you “wanting” what you want, too much? This sounds counter-intuitive – but when you focus on “wanting,” that’s what you get…more wanting of your goal (as opposed to achieving your goal). One of the definitions of “want” is: lacking or deficient in. So, by your laser-focus on wanting something, you are actually creating that feeling of wanting over and over. Instead, focus on the feelings you will feel when your goal is accomplished (as if it is happening right now). Now you are setting the stage for achievement.
3. Make sure your goals don’t conflict. For many years I desired to be hired for more paid speaking engagements. I always built this goal into my business plan and never hit my target. I realized when I look back upon this time that I had a conflicting goal to not travel too much, to be available for my family when our kids were young. My family goal had more energy behind it than my speaking goal. What do you desire that may conflict with a goal you are shooting for and missing?
Ready for the biggest leak in people’s plans? Drum roll please…
4. Limiting beliefs may be keeping you from your dream. According to Dr. Bruce Lipton, author of The Biology of Belief, we operate 95% of the time from our subconscious. That means that if you are walking around with a belief like “I’ll never reach this goal,” guess what? You won’t! Negative beliefs are the most insidious culprits to our success. Tools such as meditation, affirmations, hypnotherapy as well as personal development courses such as The Avatar Course and Psych-K can all help to identify and clear limiting beliefs.
Where are your leaks coming from?